I have been
thinking of a topic for my today’s blog since morning. It’s almost half a day gone and I still can't get a proper opening line. I can now feel th epain of the people who do this for a living. And found myself lucky enough that I have not much to think about rather than just one person and that is Rishi. The follwing blog is also dedicated to our relationship. Simplest of all to write and choose from the dearth of things.
I will start with mentioning about the relationship we entered
into, the poised, purest and the only one on earth which makes the saying go true
“Two Bodies, One Soul” and this is Marriage. Marriage is that institution which
we all have to attend at a certain point of time in our lives. And the moment
we enter it, there is no looking back. Our lives, lifestyles, way of living,
changes forever to incorporate that one person in our lives, whom we are
married to. Beautiful isn’t it?
The other day I was reading something and found that someone
has said, “Usually the husband regards himself as the head of the household,
and the pedestrian has the right of way. And, usually, both of them are safe
until they try to prove it” (Reader’s
Digest). And the funny among all is this one “Preachers are
probably safe until they speak on a text which tells wives to submit to
disobedient husbands!” Funny it is.... But in my opinion, no-one is head or
leader in the relationship called “marriage”. The moment one even thinks to
dominate, there comes the bitterness in it. It is a mutual consent, which both,
husband and wife, has to agree to.
Rishi and I
have been married for just two years (although after a decade long relationship),
and we both honestly say it proudly that we are in
love with each other and find our best friends in one other. We talk constantly and share almost everything possibly happening around
us. Today I was just thinking what will happen or would have happened if we don’t
have this kind of relationship with each other?
Are we
special or blessed in a special way? Honestly, we are not. I don’t want to be
naive, but I don’t think it is that difficult to have a best friend in your
husband—if you are willing to make the investment. I just
followed these three steps and earned the best investment of my life.
I made a list of
what I wanted in my best-friend. Being
the simplest and easiest and a pen-pencil-black-and-white person (a person who
loves to write every small little thing), made a list of all the qualities I
wanted my best friend to have. And I just thought that it should be readable
enough for the other person to understand. So finally it came out like this.
Wanted: Best Friend
Prospective candidates will:
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And then I decided
to be the same for Rishi (my dear husband) that’s right. I just
turned the table. I just thought if I want these things in my friend then
probably by having just few of these I can be Rishi’s best friend too. And then
I focused this effort on him and the result is what I am living today. I have
all these qualities in him and we are in a beautiful relationship.
I keep sowing the
seeds, until the relationship blossoms. As it is not always a path of roses or a humour to laugh on and so is
true for our relationship. We also face the hard time and fight often but I
make sure to go back to the list of qualities I made and then again everything
sought out to be normal and perfect. I
remind myself that Friendships
are like gardens; they must be cultivated. The key is to be consistent and
persistent—without expectations.
Romance is
important. But a solid friendship is the foundation of everything else. And I
am blessed enough to announce that we have the strongest foundation possible. And
this is the only reason why we can never plummet on our relationship, or on
each other. All grace is to God!
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