Prioritize the Change

This blog is to post my experience about priority change.

The last weekend, when I were travelling in train which I boarded around 10 at night, I were really tired after office and wanted to sleep as early as possible. I settled fast on my birth as I wanted to sleep and relax at the earliest.

The so called Ticket checker came around mid night to check, if we are travelling with the tickets and correct IDs or not. I just fail to understand, what he would have done with those without ticket? I did not notice the train to stop anywhere in the middle of the way to make the without ticket travelers to de-board the train. Is it not a clear indication of generation of black money? Anyways, let us not get into the economic side of it. Let us just focus on the priority side of it.

I tried to sleep and guess what…..the snoring at the highest pitch and coming from 2 births was enough for not allowing me to sleep.  People, who looked the most civilized while sitting, are the most nonsense when they sleep. Idiots of highest order do not understand that they are in a public transport and they should keep in account the comfort of all who are travelling with them.

So finally I were awake and the noise makers were sleeping with their horses sold. And that is when I wanted my watch to run super-fast no matter it was a chilled winter night, on which usually I want my watch to run slowly and steadily……

That is exactly when I realized, how with time, conditions and situations, priorities changes. People remain the same and it is only their wants, desires, tastes and preferences changes with the time and situations around them.

At the end, important is to prioritize the right thing at right time in right spirit.

LOVE? L-listening O-overcoming V-valuing E-everything

Whenever I visit a store with Rishi to buy anything, either for me or for him or for that matter for anyone, he just takes few seconds to choose. Whereas, I always, being a choosy one, takes longer than normal to pick up something. Today, again while sipping my cup of tea, I were thinking that can love be defined by taking into account the time other person takes out for you? Whether it is for choosing something for you, taking out time to talk to you, or missing his/her commitments and plans just for you and to be with you, does all these things matters or count when you have to measure the love coming from the other side?

Short on time due to a busy schedule we are into and an image of a man in a hurry to "love" reminded me that true love is really so much more.

And while no one can ever totally describe love maybe we can look at a few of its components to remind us of its richness and what we might want to model better in the coming year in our homes and lives.

Love is sacrificial. Anyone in a marriage or other relationship must never expect 50/50 relating. There are times when it's equal and both partners should learn to love well. But sacrifice means just that - we give up something. Sometimes we have to give up totally because the other doesn't or is incapable of it for a time.

Love is long-term. It is not something to do just once or two times, but it's far more to love over and over, year after year. Real love lasts and endures through even the worst.

Love isn't selfish. Love isn't done for what we'll get in return, how we'll look or to have good feelings. Love totally focuses on one another for their good.

Finally, love is God - directed.  Every Holy Book says that God is love so we need to get our strength and direction from the source. If we try to love on our own, we will mess up. We won't sacrifice, it won't last for long or we'll probably take the glory by ourselves.

So, as for another year fades, don't let your love wane. Make it richer and stronger and more giving than ever. Love really is the glue that holds us all together.

Traedmill.... Strong Will.... Or "TIME THE HILL"......

Is Too Busy to Work Out is the most common excuse for not exercising?

Not only Surveys says: “No time” but I also quote the same reason for not keeping a regular routine of exercising. And at the same time I am surprised to read it today that researchers have a different perspective towards it. According to them it is not the shortage of time but they quote "Typically, it's lack of motivation, lack of enjoyment, negative associations, fear or may be self esteem".

Busy as we may be, we have less trouble finding time for television, social networking or even dull household tasks, studies observe observes, because there simply aren’t the same steep psychological barriers to those activities. The truth is finding moments to move is entirely within your grasp.

“Most people are in denial about their health,” says fitness-industry icon Richard Simmons. “We all have reasons for not exercising, but it all comes down to time management and fear. Fear you’ll get hurt. Fear of embarrassment. Fear of failure.” But what we’d be better off being afraid of, he says, is what will happen if we don’t exercise. How will a sedentary lifestyle be affecting you next year? In five or 10 years? “Will you have time for multiple doctors’ appointments?” he asks. “Will you have the time and money to take medication every day to treat high blood pressure, high cholesterol or diabetes?” Just as important, what do you stand to gain by finally taking your health off the back burner?

Today, after extensive reading and web search, I could pen down these expert advices which can help me in figuring out the ways to take out some time for exercising.

1.  Make a Plan: The best way to make time for exercise is to have a written plan.

2.  Subdivide your to-do list: Take out a sheet of paper and create three boxes that represent the most important parts of your life i.e. family, work, yourself.

3.  Find five minutes: It’s OK to start very, very small. A five-minute walk can easily turn into daily 30-minute walk.

4.  Limit screen time: Don’t aimlessly surf Internet. That’s a surefire way to waste time you could be spending in more active ways.

5.  Think positive: “I am too busy to work out,” rephrase the thought in more positive, empowering terms, such as, “I choose to make myself a priority.” Or, “I do have time to be healthy.” Or, “I am willing to do something active today.”

6.  Socialize on the move: Instead of meeting friends over lunches, dinner or tea; meet them for a quick walk.

7.  Rise and shine: Exercising first thing in the morning will ensure you fit it in.

8.  Phone it in: Grab your cell phone (and, ideally, a headset) and get walking.

I will try to work on these tips and will see if they actually work for me or a new set of research is needed for my time management.

Atleast now I have a topic for my next blog which will hopefully be on the aftereffects of today’s research. I will be finding an answer to a question “Whether I could fit in exercise in my routine” in my next blog soon.

 

 

Best Friends for Life: HUSBAND & WIFE

I have been thinking of a topic for my today’s blog since morning. It’s almost half a day gone and I still can't get a proper opening line. I can now feel th epain of the people who do this for a living. And found myself lucky enough that I have not much to think about rather than just one person and that is Rishi. The follwing blog is also dedicated to our relationship. Simplest of all to write and choose from the dearth of things.

I will start with mentioning about the relationship we entered into, the poised, purest and the only one on earth which makes the saying go true “Two Bodies, One Soul” and this is Marriage. Marriage is that institution which we all have to attend at a certain point of time in our lives. And the moment we enter it, there is no looking back. Our lives, lifestyles, way of living, changes forever to incorporate that one person in our lives, whom we are married to. Beautiful isn’t it?

The other day I was reading something and found that someone has said, “Usually the husband regards himself as the head of the household, and the pedestrian has the right of way. And, usually, both of them are safe until they try to prove it” (Reader’s Digest). And the funny among all is this one “Preachers are probably safe until they speak on a text which tells wives to submit to disobedient husbands!” Funny it is.... But in my opinion, no-one is head or leader in the relationship called “marriage”. The moment one even thinks to dominate, there comes the bitterness in it. It is a mutual consent, which both, husband and wife, has to agree to. 

Rishi and I have been married for just two years (although after a decade long relationship), and we both honestly say it proudly that we are in love with each other and find our best friends in one other. We talk constantly and share almost everything possibly happening around us. Today I was just thinking what will happen or would have happened if we don’t have this kind of relationship with each other? 

Are we special or blessed in a special way? Honestly, we are not. I don’t want to be naive, but I don’t think it is that difficult to have a best friend in your husband—if you are willing to make the investment. I just followed these three steps and earned the best investment of my life.

I made a list of what I wanted in my best-friend. Being the simplest and easiest and a pen-pencil-black-and-white person (a person who loves to write every small little thing), made a list of all the qualities I wanted my best friend to have. And I just thought that it should be readable enough for the other person to understand. So finally it came out like this.

Wanted: Best Friend Prospective candidates will: ·         Make me feel good about being me. ·         Affirm my best qualities (especially when I am feeling insecure). ·         Call out the best in me, and hold me accountable to the best version of myself. ·         Listen without judging or trying to fix me. Give me the benefit of the doubt. ·         Extend grace to me when I am grumpy or having a bad day. ·         Remember my birthday, favourite foods, music, and art. ·         Spend time with me, just because he/she enjoy my company. ·         Speak well of me when I am not present. ·         Serve me with a joyful spirit and without complaining. ·         Speak the truth to me when no one else will. ·         Become excited about what I am excited about. ·         Celebrate my wins!

And then I decided to be the same for Rishi (my dear husband) that’s right. I just turned the table. I just thought if I want these things in my friend then probably by having just few of these I can be Rishi’s best friend too. And then I focused this effort on him and the result is what I am living today. I have all these qualities in him and we are in a beautiful relationship.

I keep sowing the seeds, until the relationship blossoms. As it is not always a path of roses or a humour to laugh on and so is true for our relationship. We also face the hard time and fight often but I make sure to go back to the list of qualities I made and then again everything sought out to be normal and perfect.  I remind myself that Friendships are like gardens; they must be cultivated. The key is to be consistent and persistent—without expectations.

Romance is important. But a solid friendship is the foundation of everything else. And I am blessed enough to announce that we have the strongest foundation possible. And this is the only reason why we can never plummet on our relationship, or on each other. All grace is to God!

Smile and the World Smile with You

Smiling is not always the Best Medicine rather sometimes it is the Best Disguise to hide the pain within.....

And it is so true that the Most Beautiful Smile is the one That Struggles Through Tears........

 

Therefore Smile through the hard times, even though it doesn’t seem to get better, but for sure smile is the first step to fixing things..... The strength is when you have so much to cry for, but you choose to Smile instead......

I lived the best example yesterday and it follows like this

Sir (S):    Your Mobile cover is full of diamonds and is shining beautifully. So this shows, you can afford diamonds even for your Mobile.......

Me (T):     Oh Sir! Thank you for the compliment, although it only for my Mobile. I just thought that since I can’t afford to wear so many diamonds myself, so I just thought that let my Mobile only enjoys a bit of glam world.

S:      Of course! But it really looks nice. And what made you  think  of  making your Mobile to wear such a diamond flashy cover?

T:      I am glad you asked! And I am surprised that you did not notice the broken body of my mobile, which can go off anytime if not protected by the cover. So you only noticed the flashy thing behind the original existing dull......

 

Hence it is so true that No one notices your Tears, No one notices your Pain, and No one notices your Sadness.... The entire World around will only notices the curve you show in the form of your Smile.......

But at the same time we should all try to create and live a happy life....  And that is possible only when you Tie It To A Goal instead of people and things.  And all you need is to create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny inner sparks of possibility into the flames of achievements. I have come to realize that just making yourself happy is most important. Never be ashamed of what you feel. You have the right to feel any emotion that you want and to do what you want. All you need is to ask yourself, before you do something is just one question and that is: Does it make you money or does it make you happy or will you have both? Stay Happy, Stay Calm and Tell the Sorrows and Problems to Wait!

 

We have all the right to Create A Life that feels Good On The Inside and not just one that looks good just on the outside..... And as it goes, Keep Smiling & one day life will get tiered of upsetting you! 

There is an added advantage attached with a smile too that it can be replaced for any emotion and words. If you cannot find the right words for certain situation just give a smile. Words have the potential to confuse, but a Smile only convinces...... So show the world and life, “A Smiling You”