A reminder to my 40+ years self

We are worthy because we exist

I often find myself tying my self-worth to achievements, approval, or external validation, forgetting that simply existing is a profound gift. From the moment I was born, I was enough. My experiences, growth, and presence add meaning to the world. I don’t need to prove myself or reach some ideal to deserve respect, love, or kindness. I embrace my worth, not because of what I’ve done, but because I exist—beautifully, powerfully, and undeniably.

To be OK no matter what

Being OK no matter what means embracing challenges with grace and trusting that I have the strength to navigate through them. It's not about avoiding hardship but cultivating inner peace, knowing my worth isn’t defined by what happens outside of me. Life is full of ups and downs, but the key to resilience is finding contentment in who I am, regardless of what I face.

Evolve or devolve, but don’t stay constant

Growth is essential. Stagnation isn’t an option. Either I move forward, expanding my mind, developing new skills, and becoming a better version of myself, or I risk falling into complacency. Life is a constant flow of change, and resisting it denies me the opportunities that come with it. The only true failure is in standing still. I will keep moving, keep growing, and never settle for staying the same.

Don’t care what people think

Caring less about what people think is liberating. I used to let the opinions of others dictate my choices and self-worth, but I’ve realized that no one else is walking in my shoes. Only I know what’s best for me. When I stop seeking validation, I free myself to pursue my passions, take risks, and make decisions that align with my true desires. I am the author of my story—no one else holds the pen.

No one has the power over me

I am the master of my own life, capable of making decisions, setting boundaries, and choosing my path. Others may try to influence or control me, but my worth and power come from within. Once I recognize that no external force can take away my sense of self, I become unstoppable.

The journey is the destination

I often get fixated on the result, thinking that happiness lies in the destination. But I’ve learned that it’s the experiences, lessons, and growth I encounter along the way that shape me. When I focus on enjoying the journey itself, rather than obsessing over what’s at the end, I unlock the richness of life. Each moment holds value, and when I embrace the present, I realize the destination reflects the path I've already walked.

I can have everything I want right now

The truth is, everything I desire is already within my reach. What often holds me back is the belief that I must wait for the "perfect moment" or some external change. But I don’t have to wait. When I embrace my worth and my ability to manifest my desires, I realize that everything I want is already mine—now, in this very moment.

Life: A Garden

 

Your life is like a garden that you continually nurture and care for. The different parts of your life are like the plants in your garden — each one unique and requiring its own attention. Some areas need a little less effort, while others might require more focus and care.

It’s all about where you choose to place your priorities. Maybe your emotional wellbeing needs more of your attention right now. Or perhaps your social connections are calling for more of your time. You might feel the need to keep your home organized, or maybe you’re currently dedicating more energy to your career.

Whatever it is, every aspect of your life needs nurturing, and that takes time and effort. Your time, energy, and focus are your most valuable resources, and how you choose to invest them will shape your life.

When you focus on something, it thrives. If you neglect it, it can start to fade. So, life is about making choices and knowing where to focus your attention, so you can nurture what matters most to you.

And I would appreciate it if you could spare some extra time to rate my poetic attempt to the same thought, which goes like this...

Your life is a garden, ever-changing, ever-growing,
A place where seeds of your dreams are sown.
Each part of you—your heart, your mind, your soul—
Is a unique blossom, with a different role.

Some flowers need sunlight, others need shade,
Some thrive with little; others must be lovingly made.
It’s about knowing what each needs to thrive,
And where your focus will truly come alive.

Perhaps your heart craves tender care,
While your friendships bloom with time to spare.
Maybe your home calls for warmth and order,
Or your work is your garden’s main border.

All areas of life need attention, it’s true,
But the key is balance, knowing what to do.
Your time, your energy, your love—
Are the water, the light, the wind from above.

So, choose your focus with wisdom and grace,
For what you nurture will grow in its place.
Tend to what matters, let the rest find its way,
And your garden will bloom in a beautiful display