5 ways to negotiate with TOXIC PEOPLE

 

1.   STICK TO FACTS:
For toxic people, nothing is out of bounds. They will try and bring in unrelated jibes about you, your appearance, your family or whatever is personal to you to take away from what maters most. Stick to the topic in hand.

2.   DON’T TRY TO FIX THEM:
You might be tempted to call out. You might be tempted to actually expose the reality of who they are but remember that it’s probably going to be futile.
Ensure that your communication is tailored ONLY to what you want out of them.

3.   DON’T EXPECT EMPATHY:
Expecting empathy from a toxic person is like waiting for apples under an orange tree. You are here to negotiate for what you want – nor their love / empathy / understanding because more often than not they are incapable of providing that.

4.   Toxic people always say things like “I would have never reacted like this if you hadn’t.”
Their basic instinct is to take ZERO (0) responsibility for their actions and shift all the blame on you. Whenever they try to deflect by throwing the responsibility back on you, steer the conversation back to WHAT YOU WANT.

5.   DON’T GIVE AWAY POWER:
The only way they feel power is by taking it away from you.
It is possible to walk away from these negotiations without giving away your power. Always ensure that you never agree to their demands that involve giving up power on your part and circle back the discussion to what you want in the first place.