“Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to
be.”
Abraham Lincoln
Abraham Lincoln
“When one door of happiness closes, another opens, but often we
look so long at the closed door that we do not see the one that has been opened
for us.”
Helen Keller
Helen Keller
“Let us be grateful to people who make us happy, they are the
charming gardeners who make our souls blossom.”
Marcel Proust
Marcel Proust
Living a happier life
often seems to be about living your big dreams and putting in a lot of work
over a long time.
I agree that it is one
part. But another part of happiness is here in small ways today. Here are some
small tweaks that can find the ways to feel happier everyday,
in every way……
1.
Be kind in small ways. Let
someone in into your lane while driving your car. Hold up the door or hold the
elevator for a stranger. Not just because that you tend to get back what you
give in some form. But for yourself too, these little things add up and make
you feel better about yourself.
2. Be
appreciative of other people. Replace the habit of
spotting the things that annoy you about people with one where you make small
or big positive observations about them. And be sure to tell them that.
3. Cut
back on the time you spend with most negative person in your life. And
spend more time with the most positive person(s).
4. Be 5 or
10 minutes early. This will make travel time a time of relaxation and
renewal rather than a time of stress and negativity added to your day. Plus,
you’ll be on time.
5. Do what
is not “you”. Try a new dish for lunch. Read a book or watch a movie that is
not in your usual genre. Learn a little about a topic that is not something you
are usually into. This is a great and fun way to find new perspectives in life,
to grow and to expand your comfort zone just a little on a daily or weekly
basis. Cultivating this habit also makes it easier to get out of your comfort zone
when larger and “scarier” opportunities present themselves.
6. Let go
of one thing from your past. Clinging on to an old
conflict, argument or that you were wronged by someone can consume a lot of
time, energy and space in your life. And as Jan Glidewell once said: “You
can clutch the past so tightly to your chest that it leaves your arms too full
to embrace the present.”
So to stop hurting yourself you have to accept that what is in your mind is in the past now. By accepting that it is in the past that you need to let go to live your life fully now.
So to stop hurting yourself you have to accept that what is in your mind is in the past now. By accepting that it is in the past that you need to let go to live your life fully now.
7. Take
the smarter and higher road. Don’t be someone the people
can walk all over, set boundaries and say no when needed. But recognize that
unnecessary conflicts just waste your time and energy. And that some people are
so addicted to the drama and conflicts that you will never win or reach an understanding between the two of you. There are more
fun and good things to spend time on in your life. So try to reach an
understanding. But if it doesn’t work then remove yourself from getting drawn
into their conflicts and make the day better for both you and possibly them.
8. Be kind
to yourself. The next time you make a mistake or fail don’t treat
yourself like a jerk of a boss would. Instead, be kind, see what you can learn
from what happened, gently nudge yourself
in the right direction again and keep going.
9. Appreciate
yourself. It’s OK and something that a lot of people don’t do
enough. Spend 5 minutes every day with thinking about or writing it down the
things you can appreciate about yourself and how far you have come. Do this
enough times – try 30 days – to change how you view yourself on a
more permanent level.
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