Deep down, we all find it draining having
to talk to too many people.
Having an active social life is one of the strongest
predictors of longevity and good health. Human connection is one of
the most fundamental and important human drives. But it can also be our most
tiring!
Quick
question: raise your hand if you ever get tired
after talking to too many people. Did you raise your
hand? Congrats: you’re human!
I think we tend to overplay our differences, and
underestimate just how similar we all really are deep down in our basic
needs, striving, and frustrations. Our common humanity. Emerging
trends reflect that even though we each show distinct patterns of
thoughts, motivations, and behaviors that make us different from each other, we
actually display
the whole spectrum of behaviors in our everyday life. Everybody sometimes gets tired
from too many social interactions, sometimes acts like a jerk, sometimes is
lazy, etc. Just some of us are consistently more so on a regular basis than
others.
The next question I would like to ask you is if you know if
you are an introvert or an extrovert? Understanding your social type can make a
huge impact on the quality of your life. Sorting people into introverts and
extroverts is a convenient way of arranging people into two different
categories of social type. But I acknowledge that this is not a black and white
issue, so very few people are complete extroverts or complete introverts.
The most prominent descriptions about introverts can be that they
need to be alone and recharge after too many social interactions. While this is
undoubtedly true, does this really differentiate introverts from
extroverts?
It is
found that the more people were acting extroverted and conscientious, the more
they reported being in a positive mood and feeling lower levels of
fatigue in the moment, but after few hours they show higher levels of fatigue.
Nevertheless, there are real differences between
introverts and extroverts that shouldn't be ignored. For one, introverts really
do prefer solitude and quiet time more, on average, than extroverts.
Also, it is observed that extroverts are more driven to engage
in social interactions that particularly increase social status or social
attention.
There is direct evidence suggesting that too much
socializing is draining for everyone. Indeed, in general, it is recorded
that when under stress, tired, or living in crowded circumstances, people
often choose to be alone if they can. Taken together, all of
this suggests that for most humans on this planet, having a reasonable
amount of social interaction and working hard toward goals makes people
feel good, but too much of either tends to make people tired after a few
hours.
We fall somewhere along the line between extroversion and
introversion. Awareness of your position on this spectrum of introversion and extroversion
is one of the important steps in discovering your perfect balance between
social and solitude. With this knowledge you can begin living more enjoyable
life by finding your golden ratio of social time and solitude. The balance
between the two will help you move closer to your optimal point of your energy
and well being.
Even the extreme extrovert is also an undeclared introvert.
ReplyDeleteI completely agree!
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