Much has been said about anger, an emotion that most
of us experience often. We read about anger, we learn anger management tips,
and we know that it is an emotion with the power to destroy, and yet when it
comes to our own lives, it’s an altogether different story.
Anger may be an emotion that we cannot evade, but the
truth is that life is much more beautiful when we learn not to succumb to it.
Let me try and put a story narration in words: There
was once a saint who felt like having a bottle of beer. He asked his disciples
to get him one. When the shocked disciples did as they were told, the saint
simply folded his hands and stared at the bottle.
Later, he asked his disciples to take it away. When
one of them asked him, “What was it that you did?” the saint told him something
that we all need to understand. He said, “I cannot control the feelings, the
emotions, or the temptations but I can definitely control my actions.”
As long as I keep my hands folded, there is no way I
can grab this bottle of beer, and even though I cannot control my temptations I
can control my actions.
I have realized that when you are angry the best thing
to do would be nothing at all. These days, when I get really upset I choose not
to say anything. I retire to my room for a couple of minutes, listen to some
music, or distract myself. I let myself feel the emotion, but I don’t let
myself react.
When we were little kids we used to write with
pencils. It was a sign that told us that our mistakes could be corrected. As we
grew older we received permanent markers to paint with on the canvas called
life. This is because we were expected to take the responsibility of not making
irreversible mistakes. Anger doesn’t allow us the irreversible mistakes and
hence should be chosen wisely if can’t be controlled.
Now when I am saying that you can not avoid to be
angry, then the exquisite minds should have this question; is there any right
time to get angry?
Let me try to explain the point of DECIDING WHEN TO GET
ANGRY:
Bhishma Pitamah is known to have done only one blunder
in life – he did not get angry at the right moment, when Draupati was being
disrobed.
Whereas Jatayu is known for only one virtue in his
life – he got angry at the right time, when Sita was being kidnapped by Ravana
and he tried to save her.
When the time came, both died.
But Bhishma Pitamah died on the bed of arrows and
Jatayu died in the lap of Lord Rama.
The vedas state that anger turns into a blessing when
it is done for the cause of ethics and morality, and on the other hand,
tolerance may turn into a sin when it cannot safeguard ethics and morality.
HENCE DECIDE WISELY WHEN YOU SHOULD GET ANGRY.